For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

quotefeeling:
“As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them.”
— Neale Donald Walsch (via thoughtkick)

do you have

any say

in your own choices?

only if you let go

of pleasing everyone else

consider others

but have the courage

to make choices that are best for all

including yourself

thoughtkick:
“Sometimes the greatest act of love is to walk away so that the other person can find their true self and direction again.”
— Leon Brown

love is not

just warm, fuzzy feelings

love is real

in doing what’s best for another person

even if it hurts

themindsjournalposts:
“When you complain you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation or accept it. All else is madness.”
— Eckhart Tolle

start with

accepting the current reality

you’re in the situation

because your choices,

your path, led you here

then seek to understand

your own choices

so you can make new, better ones

quotemadness:
“Every positive change in your life begins with a clear, unequivocal decision that you are going to either do something or stop doing something.”
— Brian Tracy

no.

positive change

starts with

self-awareness

and owning your shit.

quotefeeling:
“If you focus on failure, you can never succeed. If you focus on being hurt in a relationship, you can never be loved. Whatever you focus on, you create.”
— John Assaraf

focus

amplifies

reinforces

augments

increases

the subject

of the focus

be careful

what you choose

to focus on

because

it will crowd out everything else

thoughtkick:
“If you want to be happy, you have to be happy on purpose. When you wake up, you can’t just wait to see what kind of day you’ll have. You have to decide what kind of day you’ll have.”
— Joel Osteen

happiness is a result

of focus

a choice made

to focus

on all that is good in your life

all that you have

to be thankful for

a spiritual posture

an attitude

of gratitude

so consistently chosen

that it forms a heart

of contentment and joy

quotefeeling:

“Focus on what you can do rather than what you can’t. Small steps turn into miles.”

— Unknown (via thoughtkick)

focus

amplifies

zooms in on

makes larger

makes more

be careful

in your choice of focus

quotefeeling:

“Love didn’t hurt you. Someone who doesn’t know how to love you hurt you. Don’t confuse the two.”

— Unknown

understand

that you chose

your torturer

your attacker

you didn’t know

what you didn’t know

but their issues

aren’t everyone’s issues

let each person

show you who they are

without hanging your past on them

you create

your own happiness

as well as

your own unhappiness

learn and choose