the truth

will burn

burn the illusions we chose

we built

to avoid facing the ugly

about ourselves

but there is no growth

without facing reality

seek to understand

pay the price of the pain

the only way out

is through

spacebetweenthespaces:

“The pain that you create now is always some form of nonacceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what is. On the level of thought, the resistance is some form of judgment.”

—

Eckhart Tolle

in pain? hurting?

upset? irritated? frustrated?

worse?

you’re not accepting reality

in some way, in some place

detach from outcomes

release the negative judgment

of where you are

if you could be anywhere else

if you could have made better choices

you would have

focus on all you have

to appreciate and be thankful for

discover contentment and its companion

natural happiness

and out of acceptance

of now

of your present reality

and how you got there

see yourself

see your choices

see your mindset

see your cognitive distortions

the filters over your perceptions

that distort

all you see

magnifying and disqualifying

release your attachments

the places you’ve tied

your happiness to specific outcomes

and just peacefully work with reality

stack the deck for the future

you want to live in

thebookquotes:

“Don’t apologize for your feelings. Never apologize for those.”

— Jenna Evans Welch, from Love & Olives

but don’t trust them

to be accurate portrayals of reality

accept you feel them

then seek to understand

where your thinking led to them

so you can let them go

so they will let you go

and out of understanding

choose effective, rational, healthy responses

failure is simply

part of reality

a necessary teacher

the price of tuition

in the school of life

thoughtkick:

“Other people’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.”

— Unknown

accept that their opinion

is driven by their perception

which is colored by all

their past experiences

processed or not

and isn’t necessarily

about you at all

thevisualvamp:

mightysmallz:

Bill Murray on being present:

“Just try to feel your own weight, in your own seat, in your own feet. Okay? So if you can feel that weight in your body, if you can come back into the most personal identification, a very personal identification, which is: I am. This is me now. Here I am, right now. This is me now. Then you don’t feel like you have to leave, and be over there, or look over there. You don’t feel like you have to rush off and be somewhere.”

Aging Gracefully

when you lose your center

when you’re in your feelings

when you’re chasing the rabbits

when you’re beside yourself

when you’re in your head

breathe

in through your nose

for five seconds

out through your mouth

for five seconds

over and over

re-read this blog

re-center

re-ground

get out of your head

and into your body

and connect with physical reality

as quickly as possible

perfectquote:

“As I grow older, I pay less attention to what people say. I just watch what they do.”

— Andrew Carnegie

accept who people are

who their actions

reveal them to be

without judgment

or expectation

or attachment

to them being more

or already being

further along

their own path of growth

quotefeeling:

“You will never be who you want to be, until you are happy with who you are.”

— Thomas F. Shubnell (via perfectquote)

accept reality

who you are now

where you are now, on your path

without attachment

to false self-image

if you ever want to grow

thoughtkick:

“When you protect yourself from pain, be sure you do not protect yourself from love.”

— Alan Cohen

vulnerability requires

immense strength

because you must

lower your walls

and accept reality

without attachment

to anyone’s

approval or acceptance

validation or continued

presence in your life

thoughtkick:

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”

— Albert Camus (via perfectquote)

happiness is a secondary emotion

just as anger is

happiness comes naturally

unconsciously, effortlessly

out of nonattachment

and a life of gratitude

and contentment

accept reality, what is, is

seek understanding

choose how to respond

out of acceptance and understanding