living in now

counterdependence

breakup realizations

May 15, 2025

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

adapt reset people pleasing expectation pain self talk personas consequences healing present resentment insanity openness mindset destination self programming feelings denial intrinsic peace anger learning anxiety trauma journey belief grief fear self consciousness commitment blind spots personal responsibility existing disqualifying the positive perfection self reliance contentment counterdependence condemnation definition convictions communication validation rabbits triggered supply bitterness manipulation abundance self knowledge honesty acceptance flow accountability hope path of growth breathe toxicity in your feelings consistency worry now thoughts happiness beliefs judgment breakup unstuck setbacks persistence delusion boundaries understanding love vulnerability dependence change mindfulness reality self deception reactivity action control complaining celebration worth support stumbles connection grace response attachment soul death attachments self discovery care self love growth authenticity self awareness relationships detachment suppression insecurity life challenges respect death natural strength trust weakness lessons mistakes cooperation struggle solitude success progress suffering codependency triggers externalization subconscious resetting choices expectations self forgiveness meditation appreciation forgiveness damage challenge initiative magnification wisdom grounding gratitude safety self care narcissism projection kindness processing self control goals momentum freedom failure attention responsibility isolation truth focus actions intimacy self definition centering compassion hurt conscious living choice cognitive distortions impermanence stuck self acceptance perception
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