living in now

counterdependence

breakup realizations

May 15, 2025

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

magnification attachments projection fear challenge breathe unstuck failure supply commitment hope consistency response self reliance complaining denial damage freedom natural support self care flow triggers solitude challenges rabbits resetting mindfulness self deception self awareness self knowledge manipulation self definition understanding detachment control mindset centering acceptance self acceptance struggle validation truth resentment communication worry codependency setbacks pain self programming adapt thoughts healing peace disqualifying the positive care kindness cooperation soul death journey vulnerability insecurity belief reset trauma personal responsibility delusion mistakes intrinsic honesty abundance stuck present perfection triggered grounding in your feelings wisdom respect self consciousness progress growth path of growth beliefs life breakup strength impermanence focus now anger celebration expectations goals dependence feelings death intimacy weakness perception actions cognitive distortions self talk blind spots suffering trust stumbles judgment authenticity hurt self control worth people pleasing learning processing self forgiveness meditation destination safety initiative attention expectation personas change reactivity condemnation success openness toxicity lessons bitterness counterdependence externalization insanity anxiety compassion momentum gratitude reality love appreciation choice definition action relationships accountability responsibility narcissism isolation choices self love contentment happiness persistence existing connection conscious living suppression attachment grief grace forgiveness convictions consequences self discovery boundaries subconscious
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