let people
volunteer themselves
out of your life
by learning to set
healthy boundaries
let people
volunteer themselves
out of your life
by learning to set
healthy boundaries
be kind
supportive
compassionate
understanding
with yourself,
past and present
as you would be
with your closest, dearest friend
but don’t cut yourself
any slack, don’t spoil yourself
coddle, enable, excuse,
justify toxicity, reactivity
and call it “loving” yourself
self “love” without self awareness
isn’t actually valuing yourself
enough to do what is best for you
no matter how hard it may be
it is, instead, a path to
egocentric, solipsistic narcissism
“Love didn’t hurt you. Someone who doesn’t know how to love you hurt you. Don’t confuse the two.”
— Unknown
understand
that you chose
your torturer
your attacker
you didn’t know
what you didn’t know
but their issues
aren’t everyone’s issues
let each person
show you who they are
without hanging your past on them
Other people don’t get to treat you badly just because they’re suffering and you don’t get to treat other people badly just because you’re suffering. We all have a responsibility not to take our pain out on others, no matter how hard what we’re going through is.
we justify
our own toxicity
when we get
in our feelings
understand your feelings
trace the thoughts
that led to them
but do not trust them
to take you
anywhere good
