be kind
supportive
compassionate
understanding
with yourself,
past and present
as you would be
with your closest, dearest friend
but don’t cut yourself
any slack, don’t spoil yourself
coddle, enable, excuse,
justify toxicity, reactivity
and call it “loving” yourself
self “love” without self awareness
isn’t actually valuing yourself
enough to do what is best for you
no matter how hard it may be
it is, instead, a path to
egocentric, solipsistic narcissism
“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”
— Albert Camus (via perfectquote)
happiness is a secondary emotion
just as anger is
happiness comes naturally
unconsciously, effortlessly
out of nonattachment
and a life of gratitude
and contentment
accept reality, what is, is
seek understanding
choose how to respond
out of acceptance and understanding
a boundary
is not a boundary
if there’s no consequence
for crossing it
learn to set them
learn to enforce them
without reactivity
learn to recognize
when you’re attempting
to control others
without consent
and crossing healthy boundaries
they may not even know
to set
