themindsjournalposts:
“When you complain you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation or accept it. All else is madness.”
— Eckhart Tolle

start with

accepting the current reality

you’re in the situation

because your choices,

your path, led you here

then seek to understand

your own choices

so you can make new, better ones

the truth

will burn

burn the illusions we chose

we built

to avoid facing the ugly

about ourselves

but there is no growth

without facing reality

seek to understand

pay the price of the pain

the only way out

is through

goodgirlsdoresearch:

understanding your emotions

means you can trace them back

to the thoughts behind them

seeing the thoughts clearly

means you can examine them

analyze them, find the cognitive distortions

challenge them, counter them

and see your emotions follow

into healthier and better places

just because you think it

doesn’t mean it’s true

just because you feel it

doesn’t mean it’s real

or accurate

own the fact

that you could be wrong

quotefeeling:
“Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to. It’s not for them.”
— Joubert Botha

non-attachment

is a journey

few attempt

even fewer

understand

be kind

supportive

compassionate

understanding

with yourself,

past and present

as you would be

with your closest, dearest friend

but don’t cut yourself

any slack, don’t spoil yourself

coddle, enable, excuse,

justify toxicity, reactivity

and call it “loving” yourself

self “love” without self awareness

isn’t actually valuing yourself

enough to do what is best for you

no matter how hard it may be

it is, instead, a path to

egocentric, solipsistic narcissism

fallenangel7719:

over time

people will always

show you who they are

listen to what they do

more than what they say

realize

you’re not fooling anyone

either

How to Process Your Emotions
psych2go:

There are nuances to every emotion, and during any given moment, you can experience contradicting feelings. The elusiveness of your emotions can cause anxiety and stress without you knowing why. Often, the pursual of understanding why can lead you down the path of rumination and negative thinking.

Though rumination and negative thinking can exacerbate mental health problems, overall, it is a problem in itself. While rumination and negative thinking can devolve into an unconscious habit, some techniques can help you find a balance between ignoring your emotions and feeling overwhelmed by them.

So, how can you process your emotions?

1. Journaling
Being able to process your emotions starts with becoming aware of them. A popular tool is journaling. Many experts recommend writing down your emotions as it has been shown to reduce stress. A study published in 2005 by Karen A. Baikie and Kay Wilhelm from The Royal College of Psychiatrists in Australia recapitulated the many immediate and long-term benefits of journaling. According to earlier studies, some of the objective physical benefits of journaling are improved physical health such as blood pressure, liver function, and improved immune system.  

Although there is inconsistent evidence regarding whether or not journaling can improve psychological symptoms, a 2003 study found that expressive writing was beneficial for those with alexithymia, which has similar characteristics found among patients with psychosomatic or borderline personality disorders. Additionally, an article published by the University of Minnesota in 2016 found that expressing your emotions via writing, talking, or another medium, improved mental health in students who were refugees.
The key to successful journaling is contingent upon the way you journal. A successful method was to write about your deepest thoughts and feelings regarding an emotional issue that affected your life. While writing, the point is to let go. Allow your thoughts and words to be undisturbed. Do not worry about syntax or grammar. Just write. In the world of art theory and history, this journaling process is very similar to automatism. A concept that began in the Dada movement and was later used in surrealist art.

If you don’t feel comfortable writing down your thoughts, find a different outlet. There are many different ways to express yourself.

2. Ground yourself
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there are no

bad feelings

wrong feelings

there are simply

harder feelings

grief, regret, sadness

anger, rage, loss

suppressing them

avoiding them

just dams them up

buries them underground

pressure builds and

they show up

in unhealthy ways

like pus squeezed out

of an infected wound

like pressure building

erupting in random, small geysers

until a volcano explodes

like pinhole leaks in a dam

that gradually expand into cracks

before the whole dam fails

feel them, process them,

let them flow through and observe

feel your feelings, honor them with their time

trace them back to the thoughts

that fed them, accept them,

seek to understand them

clean the wounds

so they can heal

symphonyoflovenet:

“Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath.”

— Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now

backtrace the anger

to the hurt it hides

anger is always

a secondary emotion

accept you feel hurt

get out of your feelings

breathe, ground, center

then seek to understand

why?

where are you attached

to an outcome or timeline

spacebetweenthespaces:

“The pain that you create now is always some form of nonacceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what is. On the level of thought, the resistance is some form of judgment.”

—

Eckhart Tolle

in pain? hurting?

upset? irritated? frustrated?

worse?

you’re not accepting reality

in some way, in some place

detach from outcomes

release the negative judgment

of where you are

if you could be anywhere else

if you could have made better choices

you would have

focus on all you have

to appreciate and be thankful for

discover contentment and its companion

natural happiness

and out of acceptance

of now

of your present reality

and how you got there

see yourself

see your choices

see your mindset

see your cognitive distortions

the filters over your perceptions

that distort

all you see

magnifying and disqualifying

release your attachments

the places you’ve tied

your happiness to specific outcomes

and just peacefully work with reality

stack the deck for the future

you want to live in

thebookquotes:

“Don’t apologize for your feelings. Never apologize for those.”

— Jenna Evans Welch, from Love & Olives

but don’t trust them

to be accurate portrayals of reality

accept you feel them

then seek to understand

where your thinking led to them

so you can let them go

so they will let you go

and out of understanding

choose effective, rational, healthy responses