For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

be kind

supportive

compassionate

understanding

with yourself,

past and present

as you would be

with your closest, dearest friend

but don’t cut yourself

any slack, don’t spoil yourself

coddle, enable, excuse,

justify toxicity, reactivity

and call it “loving” yourself

self “love” without self awareness

isn’t actually valuing yourself

enough to do what is best for you

no matter how hard it may be

it is, instead, a path to

egocentric, solipsistic narcissism

resqectable:

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete”

— Buddha

accept your own progress

on your own path

(you are as far

along your path

as you could be)

and seek understanding

when you miss your own mark

no self-judgment

no self-punishment

no self-shaming

no self-recrimination

no self-condemnation

theupper1percent:

“You’re not going to master the rest of your life in one day. Just relax. Master the day. Then just keep doing that every day.”

don’t lose entire days

when you get derailed

master the moment

master picking yourself

back up, quickly, gently,

kindly, compassionately

when you stumble, struggle, or fall