living in now

compassion

breakup realizations

May 15, 2025

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

self love without self awareness

March 27, 2024

be kind

supportive

compassionate

understanding

with yourself,

past and present

as you would be

with your closest, dearest friend

but don’t cut yourself

any slack, don’t spoil yourself

coddle, enable, excuse,

justify toxicity, reactivity

and call it “loving” yourself

self “love” without self awareness

isn’t actually valuing yourself

enough to do what is best for you

no matter how hard it may be

it is, instead, a path to

egocentric, solipsistic narcissism

challenge detachment forgiveness trauma self discovery codependency personas attention intrinsic breakup journey success openness self knowledge suppression reality beliefs lessons self forgiveness dependence reactivity impermanence happiness path of growth rabbits action pain kindness contentment acceptance authenticity breathe focus choice understanding self deception control present reset complaining bitterness hurt change suffering delusion setbacks denial failure strength mindfulness people pleasing isolation self care grounding self programming judgment conscious living counterdependence self love centering hope relationships condemnation convictions flow externalization struggle cooperation love narcissism healing care respect self talk choices self acceptance perception safety growth now self control commitment adapt gratitude learning soul death anger expectation mistakes supply truth resentment death definition attachments self awareness goals toxicity in your feelings thoughts anxiety trust persistence response stumbles damage triggers freedom natural manipulation worry connection wisdom expectations actions insanity support destination responsibility belief life disqualifying the positive stuck triggered peace perfection self consciousness cognitive distortions abundance appreciation weakness accountability grace processing grief consequences challenges existing honesty boundaries momentum self definition feelings insecurity unstuck projection meditation intimacy consistency initiative self reliance solitude celebration magnification progress personal responsibility fear attachment mindset communication blind spots resetting vulnerability subconscious compassion validation worth
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