The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

quotefeeling:
“As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them.”
— Neale Donald Walsch (via thoughtkick)

do you have

any say

in your own choices?

only if you let go

of pleasing everyone else

consider others

but have the courage

to make choices that are best for all

including yourself

julesofnature:
“I sat with my anger long enough, until she told me her real name was grief.”
— Isaac Rowe

her real name

is never anger

it’s grief

or pain

or sorrow

or hurt

missing apologies cannot be

the piece that holds you back

your hurt, the wrongs done to you

may never be acknowledged

don’t stay trapped in the past

trying to walk forward

while facing backwards

forgive without needing an apology

for your own freedom