For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

it starts and ends

with owning yourself

your feelings, your experience

no one makes you mad

no one makes you happy

your thoughts lead to your feelings

conscious, acknowledged, or not

change your thinking and

you change your feelings

let your feelings tell you

there’s something to accept

something to understand

something to respond to

rationally, effectively

don’t get in them

don’t chase the rabbits

find the attachment

and sever it, let it go

remanence-of-love:

pour into each other

from your own supply

without attachment

to their supply

of attention or validation