living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

change centering honesty validation impermanence worth progress existing perception success condemnation kindness self talk communication stumbles perfection safety anger breathe solitude unstuck intimacy counterdependence persistence stuck setbacks relationships manipulation reset self care acceptance life people pleasing celebration personal responsibility denial vulnerability detachment care blind spots thoughts struggle self knowledge beliefs grief insanity self consciousness authenticity complaining natural momentum self control damage expectations conscious living in your feelings insecurity self love resentment expectation boundaries consequences lessons weakness focus failure attention appreciation belief connection healing judgment now understanding fear narcissism mindset accountability definition triggers reality attachment toxicity choices meditation control resetting grounding self awareness delusion trust gratitude challenges hurt journey personas self forgiveness reactivity codependency peace self discovery wisdom learning strength subconscious mistakes responsibility growth initiative challenge intrinsic compassion freedom present actions adapt self deception action disqualifying the positive pain processing self reliance magnification contentment love self programming hope openness respect attachments isolation truth cooperation rabbits convictions goals destination happiness commitment self definition bitterness abundance cognitive distortions projection supply path of growth mindfulness anxiety soul death worry trauma flow breakup triggered forgiveness choice suffering consistency response dependence feelings externalization death self acceptance suppression support grace
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