living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

self acceptance stumbles fear understanding suffering validation life strength success accountability self care now beliefs hope reset self programming response cognitive distortions consequences acceptance projection solitude vulnerability existing disqualifying the positive self discovery choices perception learning adapt rabbits self definition grounding initiative resentment authenticity expectations intrinsic convictions anxiety death flow boundaries actions conscious living consistency breakup attachment self knowledge supply pain freedom safety complaining expectation peace toxicity responsibility triggers manipulation dependence action self love lessons truth self forgiveness thoughts blind spots challenges resetting personal responsibility destination progress goals triggered counterdependence care appreciation grace centering self talk in your feelings gratitude processing anger stuck trauma weakness wisdom control self reliance commitment breathe insecurity natural honesty externalization healing bitterness people pleasing kindness trust subconscious relationships self awareness focus compassion abundance denial judgment worry attention condemnation mistakes happiness mindset journey path of growth self control contentment damage mindfulness reactivity hurt forgiveness delusion struggle support perfection detachment personas meditation attachments self deception challenge belief codependency insanity openness respect impermanence love present magnification grief worth definition setbacks narcissism change soul death choice cooperation momentum intimacy suppression unstuck reality self consciousness failure celebration communication persistence growth feelings connection isolation
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