living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

goals damage progress peace unstuck hope self definition counterdependence persistence responsibility compassion intrinsic self love life processing toxicity consistency self consciousness anger suppression abundance projection self reliance grace insecurity lessons bitterness happiness impermanence personas expectations complaining manipulation attachment destination anxiety death natural vulnerability celebration cognitive distortions feelings mindset self knowledge learning solitude existing thoughts delusion flow safety resentment relationships struggle hurt support fear people pleasing attention mindfulness trauma accountability condemnation self deception self discovery self acceptance healing detachment subconscious self talk pain belief reactivity commitment disqualifying the positive stuck worth challenges change grief codependency momentum journey boundaries path of growth growth self forgiveness truth care magnification definition authenticity rabbits breathe mistakes denial actions honesty cooperation reality kindness expectation intimacy validation choice understanding self awareness failure centering dependence response externalization self control respect triggers personal responsibility freedom triggered resetting present perception narcissism focus soul death wisdom control worry openness consequences suffering in your feelings weakness challenge communication self programming stumbles initiative success perfection acceptance breakup trust now attachments action insanity forgiveness appreciation strength judgment self care conscious living blind spots convictions connection setbacks adapt beliefs reset choices grounding meditation love isolation supply gratitude contentment
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