living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

processing accountability persistence kindness rabbits attachments honesty condemnation destination anxiety supply self awareness cognitive distortions choice triggered dependence celebration subconscious mistakes now grief narcissism hope convictions connection people pleasing counterdependence worry feelings relationships reset strength breakup delusion intrinsic support present centering path of growth safety compassion perception forgiveness stuck conscious living self discovery self acceptance acceptance isolation unstuck goals suppression peace vulnerability success attachment response insanity attention openness consequences focus change resentment existing self care action in your feelings freedom lessons adapt self definition mindfulness suffering contentment self deception truth authenticity expectations magnification reactivity self love mindset trust self consciousness meditation learning momentum bitterness judgment thoughts resetting control triggers understanding definition codependency healing love death fear choices manipulation insecurity struggle boundaries anger self programming expectation validation stumbles detachment blind spots self talk perfection damage happiness natural complaining flow pain actions gratitude life commitment journey weakness worth disqualifying the positive self reliance personal responsibility self forgiveness self knowledge grounding progress intimacy toxicity soul death personas challenge abundance projection care responsibility reality self control wisdom denial growth solitude beliefs trauma setbacks consistency belief grace impermanence appreciation respect externalization breathe failure communication initiative challenges cooperation hurt
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