living in now

change

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

happiness is your job

it starts and ends

with owning yourself

your feelings, your experience

no one makes you mad

no one makes you happy

your thoughts lead to your feelings

conscious, acknowledged, or not

change your thinking and

you change your feelings

let your feelings tell you

there’s something to accept

something to understand

something to respond to

rationally, effectively

don’t get in them

don’t chase the rabbits

find the attachment

and sever it, let it go

boundaries change personas people pleasing externalization blind spots attachment self knowledge meditation success manipulation denial reset commitment authenticity disqualifying the positive wisdom flow condemnation narcissism feelings impermanence action in your feelings progress codependency cooperation freedom breathe journey self love expectations present isolation focus centering consequences bitterness choices attention judgment mindset worth damage perfection happiness adapt counterdependence insanity existing abundance suppression destination dependence anger intimacy accountability celebration unstuck triggered self acceptance validation weakness control self talk care self awareness communication self consciousness self care self control persistence consistency reality forgiveness projection support trust momentum gratitude hope contentment lessons pain growth kindness complaining learning honesty path of growth breakup thoughts attachments respect perception grief stuck acceptance challenge soul death detachment openness grounding connection self reliance goals appreciation natural supply belief mistakes healing strength intrinsic response safety suffering rabbits anxiety self forgiveness subconscious failure mindfulness reactivity resetting trauma expectation setbacks convictions truth stumbles delusion responsibility grace insecurity toxicity worry struggle definition beliefs resentment vulnerability initiative triggers love life fear death self discovery choice compassion relationships solitude self programming personal responsibility challenges self definition understanding actions hurt processing self deception magnification peace now cognitive distortions conscious living
Subscribe to our newsletter
The most recent posts emailed to you every week
All rights reserved © 2023