living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

emotional self torture

How to Process Your Emotions
psych2go:

There are nuances to every emotion, and during any given moment, you can experience contradicting feelings. The elusiveness of your emotions can cause anxiety and stress without you knowing why. Often, the pursual of understanding why can lead you down the path of rumination and negative thinking.

Though rumination and negative thinking can exacerbate mental health problems, overall, it is a problem in itself. While rumination and negative thinking can devolve into an unconscious habit, some techniques can help you find a balance between ignoring your emotions and feeling overwhelmed by them.

So, how can you process your emotions?

1. Journaling
Being able to process your emotions starts with becoming aware of them. A popular tool is journaling. Many experts recommend writing down your emotions as it has been shown to reduce stress. A study published in 2005 by Karen A. Baikie and Kay Wilhelm from The Royal College of Psychiatrists in Australia recapitulated the many immediate and long-term benefits of journaling. According to earlier studies, some of the objective physical benefits of journaling are improved physical health such as blood pressure, liver function, and improved immune system.  

Although there is inconsistent evidence regarding whether or not journaling can improve psychological symptoms, a 2003 study found that expressive writing was beneficial for those with alexithymia, which has similar characteristics found among patients with psychosomatic or borderline personality disorders. Additionally, an article published by the University of Minnesota in 2016 found that expressing your emotions via writing, talking, or another medium, improved mental health in students who were refugees.
The key to successful journaling is contingent upon the way you journal. A successful method was to write about your deepest thoughts and feelings regarding an emotional issue that affected your life. While writing, the point is to let go. Allow your thoughts and words to be undisturbed. Do not worry about syntax or grammar. Just write. In the world of art theory and history, this journaling process is very similar to automatism. A concept that began in the Dada movement and was later used in surrealist art.

If you don’t feel comfortable writing down your thoughts, find a different outlet. There are many different ways to express yourself.

2. Ground yourself
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there are no

bad feelings

wrong feelings

there are simply

harder feelings

grief, regret, sadness

anger, rage, loss

suppressing them

avoiding them

just dams them up

buries them underground

pressure builds and

they show up

in unhealthy ways

like pus squeezed out

of an infected wound

like pressure building

erupting in random, small geysers

until a volcano explodes

like pinhole leaks in a dam

that gradually expand into cracks

before the whole dam fails

feel them, process them,

let them flow through and observe

feel your feelings, honor them with their time

trace them back to the thoughts

that fed them, accept them,

seek to understand them

clean the wounds

so they can heal

false selves are the easy way out

thoughtkick:

“It’s a hell of a responsibility to be yourself. It’s much easier to be somebody else or nobody at all.”

Sylvia Plath

it’s much more terrifying

than crafting a false persona

a fake personality, a fake person

or persons

culled from popular culture

and your friends

in order to be accepted

but it’s a slow death

on the inside, dying

while still living

just existing

pain and suffering are information

spacebetweenthespaces:

“The pain that you create now is always some form of nonacceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what is. On the level of thought, the resistance is some form of judgment.”

Eckhart Tolle

in pain? hurting?

upset? irritated? frustrated?

worse?

you’re not accepting reality

in some way, in some place

detach from outcomes

release the negative judgment

of where you are

if you could be anywhere else

if you could have made better choices

you would have

focus on all you have

to appreciate and be thankful for

discover contentment and its companion

natural happiness

and out of acceptance

of now

of your present reality

and how you got there

see yourself

see your choices

see your mindset

see your cognitive distortions

the filters over your perceptions

that distort

all you see

magnifying and disqualifying

release your attachments

the places you’ve tied

your happiness to specific outcomes

and just peacefully work with reality

stack the deck for the future

you want to live in

any action beats passivity

blossomwithbri:

“𝘈𝘯𝘺 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘯𝘰 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘤𝘬 𝘪𝘯 𝘢𝘯 𝘶𝘯𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘺 𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦. 𝘐𝘧 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦, 𝘢𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘪𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘤𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘯𝘰 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳 𝘢 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦. 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘤𝘬, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨.”

― 𝘌𝘤𝘬𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘛𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘦, 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘗𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘧 𝘕𝘰𝘸: 𝘈 𝘎𝘶𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘚𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘌𝘯𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵

fear and anxiety

living in the past

living out of the past

trap us so easily

move, learn, grow

run the labyrinth

of choices

find the dead ends quickly

eliminate the suboptimal choices

while others are still stuck at the entrance

in indecision

choices breathe resetting meditation condemnation struggle mindfulness externalization belief perfection personas self definition honesty understanding suppression peace self knowledge suffering in your feelings freedom progress manipulation cooperation gratitude journey connection grace expectations rabbits grief feelings setbacks intimacy accountability anxiety self discovery subconscious hope death weakness detachment grounding counterdependence forgiveness definition attention impermanence dependence unstuck challenges self deception intrinsic appreciation actions insecurity self acceptance mindset self programming action wisdom reality healing consequences truth focus adapt trust compassion anger choice boundaries worth cognitive distortions love conscious living challenge attachment strength flow success fear respect blind spots growth control toxicity codependency processing reactivity contentment mistakes consistency breakup self care complaining triggers abundance self talk perception vulnerability validation change authenticity trauma reset convictions self love lessons acceptance relationships expectation stuck worry goals support magnification resentment celebration now openness life judgment self control damage care response momentum insanity existing projection self forgiveness responsibility delusion narcissism communication stumbles hurt solitude natural attachments kindness commitment self awareness path of growth disqualifying the positive triggered pain denial bitterness initiative people pleasing persistence happiness present soul death destination self consciousness thoughts learning safety failure self reliance supply centering isolation beliefs personal responsibility
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